Mothers on Oprah

Hey there. I saw the Oprah show where a columnist wrote a horrific article about her wonderful sex life and not devote every waking moment to her four children. Mothers were outraged she did not love her children and put her husband above her children. Such cruelity. OK, what are these mothers plan on doing when their babies move out and they are left alone with a husband who is a complete stranger. I can't tell what they are planning for that day, but I know what they will do. Empty nest syndrome will hit them like a ton of bricks on their heads. They will constantly call their children at college worried they are starving, not brushing their teeth, not studying, and wearing dirty clothes because they are lost without their mothers doing everything for them. They will hear, I'm fine Mom, stop worrying. When children get married their mother will insist on planning everything as if it were her wedding. They will hear, It's my wedding Mom, not yours. They will spoil the grandchildren with treats and presents because their children are not raising them right. They will hear, Stop cleaning my house, you are a guest here. Then when these mothers get a job, they will mother their coworkers and employees who do not want their motherly advise. They will hear, It's my life and I will do what I want with it.

I had 2 managers claim to not think of themselves as managers, but as mothers. I went home to tell my Mom that I don't need another mother, I need a boss. When I quit, these mother managers cried wondering what they did wrong to make me leave. My decision to quit had nothing to do with them. Several coworkers feel the need to mother me. One accused me of torturing her on purpose because I came in every day with my shirt tag sticking out. When asked why I purposely leave it out for her to tuck in I said something I had said to my Mom, just to make you mad. One coworker took my disobedience of her advise personally and demanded to know why her advise was not followed, I said because I didn't want to do what she suggested. Another coworker was aghast when I suggested not paying her drug addicted son's bills anymore and let him feel the consequences of his actions. She thought I was a monster because her child needed her. Another coworker believed she was ruining her sons' Christmas because she forgot to buy stocking stuffers, then angry the next day because they did not even notice the missing stocking stuffers. Another coworker I had a huge fight over the fact I don't have matching furniture. Another coworker fight was over the fact I don't want or need a 10-foot tall entertainment center. I ask why these people care what my apartment looks like, they don't live here.

In short, I think it a negative thing for mothers to focus completely on their children because they don't know when to stop mothering and are lost if no one needs them. Post later. Bye!