Roommate asked if his girlfriend could stay another night when she had been here for 2 nights. She was asleep at the moment. No, she wasn't. She was wide awake and I demanded she leave cause has been here long enough. My house is not a free hotel for his homeless friends. I received a lecture after I dropped her off downtown near a place one of her friends lives. Roommate was upset that his girlfriend believes I don't like her. Well, that would be accurate. I don't like her or trust her. She is ruled by her anxiety, plus using him and me. I am under no obligation to be friends with her. I think she is manipulative as well as this conversation. Even further he is upset I called his friends lowlife. They are people he cares about. If they are lowlife then so is he. From years of dealing with customers and nieces and nephew for years, I know when I am being played. If I don't kick her out, she will never leave. My kindness has limits and he finding this out. I care about my roommate without social connections to house him until he gets back onto his feet. This kindness doesn't include his girlfriend or friends. He said my judment of people effects how much I care about them. I call it self-preservation. I don't like being used.
His train wreck girlfriend full of bad decisions and unreliable friends is incapable of taking care of herself and he feels a need to take care of her to make up for her bad relationships. But he can't do that depending on my charity.
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