Why can't men be like women?

I watched the Oprah Show today where a panel of men explained why men do things the way they do. Though it was not stated, I am sure many women watching asked "Why can't men be like women?". There were discussions on porn, strip clubs, golf, and picking up messes.

I can always be wrong, but I think many women object to porn because they were raised to be good girls and porn was taught to be dirty. Good girls do not argue, never are agressive, do not wear clothes tight or revealing, and make their men happy while ignoring their own needs. A man viewing naked women offends because many women thnk it is evidence of their failure to please their men. Of course men do not take on that view when lookig at naked women. And there are many insecure women who are threatened by any woman more pretty, more smart, more skinny, more tall that they are because they fear they will be abandoned for someone better than they are.

I remember an episode of Married with Children where the husband met a gorgeous woman, went home, gave his wife a wig, and carried her up the stairs. If I had a man who told me I was the most beautiful woman in the world when he came back from a strip club, I would not be objecting to him visiting them. I read somewhere that men love to be told how wonderful they are (more than once). Women love that too (more than once). And often there is often confusion which is worse, the crime (like viewing porn)or the lying about it. Most people are more angry of the lying and the covering up a crime than the crime itself. Apologies and flowers are most effective in receiving forgiveness from a woman.

And as for messes not being picked up. If you want a smoker to stop, you don't blow smoke in their face every day. If want a man, or child, to pick up their own messes, then never pick up their messes. Eventually that person will figure out the mess stays put until they clean it and get tired of looking at it. Post later. Bye!