Full afternoon

Got to my sister's house and nobody was there. Talked to my aunt on the phone and my sister called to say they will return when my other sister comes. My sister from Nebraska wanted to see him in the hospital. I passed on that experience, I rather remember him alive and rubbing lotion on and telling him I have cable again. I will see him in the coffin. Funeral is Wednesday and visitation Tuesday. I watched Hogan's Heroes my sister records on her DVR and did laundry.

Then the rush came in. My sister, husband, and 1 daughter from Nebraska, Mom, Aunt from Grimes, and my sister's family. We ordered pizza. I already ate fish and fries an hour before they came. Mom was still numb and devasted she wasn't there when he passed. The nurses called this morning saying he was unresponsive so she rushed over. Then she left for half hour to eat in the cafeteria and came back to find him gone. He had 2 nurses in the room monitoring him so he was not alone. I told Mom maybe he waited for her to leave so she would not panic when he left. Yesterday he lost the ability to swallow and everything went to his lungs, he choked on his saliva. They gave him 6 months to live and he dies the next day. While Mom was freaking cuz she missed it, my sister shows up and heard a nurse say that she didn't know. Mom gave sister a big hug crying how she just left and now he is gone.

Niece saw my weekly movie loan and we watched Beverly Hills Chihuahua. It is funny. Discussed funeral time, moving to retirement place, etc. I told Mom at least she gets pick the tombstone (one thing Dad procrastinated on cuz they couldn't agree). She will have big hearts and engrave a train for him (he worked on the railroad). They have plots in the same cemetery of my Dad's parents. Mom didn't want to return home tomorrow by herself to get Dad's suit and look through his pig sty desk. She is also worried about taxes she will have to pay. Mom thinks she will move into a retirement place this summer after selling 2 farms and 2 houses full of stuff. Guess I need to find a storage place for my stuff still in their house and a bed/dresser in my grandparents' house. She needs to finish her dream kitchen Dad stopped working on when he got cancer and finish the patio started on when I was in high school and practically a weed patch. Plus the privacy fence is falling apart too. Grandparents' house needs new dry walls everywhere, new basement walls, and new water heater. That part is estimated at $40,000 to fix.

After pizza everybody left and I told Mom I would be with her as she returns to the house. It was time for niece to go to bed. My brother is coming tomorrow morning and my Dad's sisters are coming up for the funeral. I said I would meet them at the house at 1:00. At least Dad only has one suit for Sundays so that's the easy part. The hard part will be agreeing on a coffin. Well, cats need attention.