A List

I was reading Oprah Magazine and found letters to the editor about people grateful for the article in a past issue about making a list of traits you want in a husband, and that will come to you cause you are focusing on what you want, not traits you don't want.

Also, in the magazine they had articles about friendships, which I skip since I don't really have friends. Don't get me wrong, I have plenty of email pals that never write except for the generic "Everything is fine" note at Christmas. Sure I talk to people at work but we never converse outside of work. Though whenever I do think I'm gaining a friend at work, she turns into the makeover artist changing my clothes, shoes, hair, make-up, etc. I don't like being someone's project or clone so I pull away. I also despise people who insist on coming to their church when I keep telling them I will never come. I guess my definition of friend is anyone who can tolerate my presence.

So in that here is my list for people I want in my life, husband or friend.

Traits I Won't Tolerate:

Control freak w/abusive personality cause I get enough verbal abuse from my family that I don't need any more from friends.

People who answer every story I tell with "What you need to do is". I'm not asking for advice, I am telling a story, period. I also get plenty unsolicited advice from everybody I know that I don't need more.

Guy who gets a agressive/vicious dog breed simply to prove to everyone how tough and strong he is. I will not have a vicious dog attack my cats or bite off the fingers of my 4-year-old niece in my home. Besides, a vicious dog will prove how neglectful and ignorant you are of needs of something that depends on you for care, not how tough you are.

I don't wish to be close to the stupidest people on earth dependent on me telling them what to do.

I don't want someone who loves cooking cause I enjoy it so I don't want compeition for the stove.

What traits I do want:

Kind, generous, funny, willing to take me out, imagination, good communicator, good negotiator and cooperative, likes to hold hands and snuggle, someone who takes care of themself, likes cats and other creatures (nothing that would cause harm to my cats), and a nice smile. I prefer tall, blond, and muscular, but can fall for any hair color or stature.

Now where do I find someone like that? I bet guys like that are already married with 3 kids. Post later. Bye!