Poor advice

I was going through my computer dating service for advice on dating. One question was asking why do people keep telling me I'm wonderful the first few dates and then had a great time on their latest date, but they never want to see me again. This person is so sick of being rejected. Why can't this person find their soul mate!? The answer was to keep trying and rejection is just the natural order of things.

I thought that was very poor advice offering no real solution to this person's problem. I hate to inform people of this, but maybe, just maybe, these dates are just being nice and polite, not truly interested in their date. Very few people enjoy hurting other people's feelings. Sure movies have lots of villians, but most of us are not Darth Vader. We commonly avoid conflict like the plague. So that could be the reason.

Another reason could be not reading the signs of someone not interested in you, so when they had enough of your company, they get more direct and hurtful. I have met men who don't get the hint that we are not friends. I try my best to be cold as ice and unfriendly, even avoiding eye contact as they walk by, but they are convinced we have a relationship. One freak boy actually argued with me when I said never to his question "When are we going out?" I'm staring at him, while makes his arguement we can go down the street and drink cocoa at a place open 24 hrs., asking inside my head "What part of never did this you not get?" Need I explain more?

Another reason could be disillusionment. A person meets you thinking you are their knight in shining armor who will solve all their problems, then they find out prince or princess charming has flaws and irritating habits. Much like asking a person out for a romantic candlelit steak dinner and find out later they are a vegetarian. I can't think of more reasons of constant rejection. Post later. Bye!